Last week Monday marked the day my parents exchanged their wedding vows 51 years ago. I was very nostalgic about not being able to celebrate with them a one in a lifetime event. This blog post is dedicated to my beloved parents: a celebration to honour their marriage. My way to express my love and admiration for their union.
The Lovers: what does lovers mean? General definition found in the Cambridge dictionary is: “a partner in a romantic or physical relationship“. In Tarot, the Lovers VI: represents relationships and choices. Is it possible to say in a few words what relationships actually are? We all know that relationships are not simple. There are complexities and dynamics, brought in from each of the parties involved. It doesn’t matter whether it is a love, friendship, family or business relationship; in each of them different forms of energies come into play.
Understanding relationships is way of learning to navigate our interactions with others. Sometimes it goes smoothly, yet other times it is a rough trip. Here is where astrology can help in understanding the energies and dynamics of the way we relate to each other. Astrology is not about giving you exact answers, or predicting when you might meet the other one, or whether a relationship will make it through a crisis. It’s about getting an insight of yourself through your birth chart. By learning about yourself, you are able to understand patterns, and the ways you react to situations through learned behaviours in childhood experiences or later in life.
Sometimes, we might need a different perspective to help us understand a situation we are going through. We might seek out help by means of a therapist or an astrologer. Sometimes we don’t, we keep on going, and like a puzzle the pieces start fitting perfectly, or they simply never do or we keep on forcing the pieces until eventually they start breaking.
What holds a relationship together you might ask? There isn’t an exact answer, because each relationship is unique to two human beings, just like each of us are unique. A relationship is like two worlds coming together and finding the common ground, while continuing to be true to yourself.
Whoever you might ask what is the secret to a long relationship – the person will tell you a different or similar answer, because we live and experience our relationships differently.
Of course, I had to ask my parents for their magic formula. Their answer: Love, respect and patience.
“The essential purpose of astrology is not so much to tell us what we will meet on our road, as it is to suggest how to meet it – and the basic reason for the meeting. Which quality in us, which type of strength is needed to go through any specific phase of our total unfoldment as an individual person”
— Dane Rudhyar
Artwork The Lovers VI – Oak, Ash and Thorn Tarot by Stephanie Burrows and Adam Oehlers.